tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.comments2020-04-16T01:34:36.953-07:00Lady Elaine's Lifestyle blogEMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14481084739082043028noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-15899770717445611992019-08-23T01:10:04.414-07:002019-08-23T01:10:04.414-07:00Entirely agree, it's been a bugbear of mine fo...Entirely agree, it's been a bugbear of mine for ages too! I hug close friends and family if they are ok with it and/ or they approach me that way first, as the closeness is an expression of trust, love, companionship. I rarely kiss them, as that is too intimate.<br />I DO NOT want to kiss or hug total strangers who I don't know,and why should I?<br />TV / media is a lot to blame, promoting such actions and appearing to normalise it. Respect and courtesy tothe other person seems to have gone out the window!Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-44161198068760349752019-08-15T03:23:22.271-07:002019-08-15T03:23:22.271-07:00So true Amanda, you do right ! and thanks for your...So true Amanda, you do right ! and thanks for your comment x<br />EMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14481084739082043028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-52777193762640042702019-08-15T02:50:40.886-07:002019-08-15T02:50:40.886-07:00Love this article and so true. I never went to uni...Love this article and so true. I never went to university I left school after staying on a year and trained on the job. My ex used to always put me down that I didn't go to university, like he did but when it came to the practicalities of life he had no clue so I'd smile to myself thinking who's the clever one now. My son is only 10 and I have always told him to do his best at school and will never pressurise him to go to university it will be his choice. If he goes I will be proud of him, if he leaves school and gets work to be an apprentice or to work his way up, I'll be proud of him. The world is his oyster, what ever path he takes. Amanda Ashtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17545778886411617728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-69158075793644831342019-08-12T01:16:07.333-07:002019-08-12T01:16:07.333-07:00Beautifully written ElaineBeautifully written ElaineRowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-91560497217270052222018-10-26T08:59:49.014-07:002018-10-26T08:59:49.014-07:00I had regular breast check ups as part of my '...I had regular breast check ups as part of my 'company package' health MOTs, then after 60 by the NHS. Yes, a bit uncomfortable with 'the dreaded squish' but only momentarily and worth the screening. I also found yogic breathing excercises beforehand and during also helped the relaxation, which lessened the pain.<br />I have been a great advocate of any type of health screening ever since a routine cervical smear test in my early 30s caught cancerous cells early enough (Ill never forget having that phone call - while I was at work!) and though it resulted in a hysterectomy to totally remove it, I called that a small price to pay.<br />I also regularly take the poo test, even though it's rather distasteful to do, as I'd rather do that than succumb to bowel cancer!<br />So I'd say, the uncomfortable procedures are worth doing to minimise the risks.Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-60575754755712198822018-06-03T10:21:46.431-07:002018-06-03T10:21:46.431-07:00Defining "intelligence" is a fool's ...Defining "intelligence" is a fool's errand. You are just as intelligent as your older sister, and I should know! Getting into grammar school wasn't easy, I had to work hard at it as you did, and we both got in, although each has differing talents which have grown both in and after grammar school.<br />Yes, we didn't have much money then - there was a grant given for our school uniforms because we were poorer than most attending that school, and I can still remember the shame of having to queue up for free school dinners because we couldn't afford to pay for them!<br />In those days about 55 years ago there was, as you say, a division between 'intelligent academia' and the "second class" secondary modern. Thank goodness modern enlightenment gives opportunities in all spheres to all talents, although there is still a hierarchy attached to academia /top stream/grammar/public schools which will take a while to go away (if it ever does). But it is a shame that pushy parents force (well, maybe 'force' is too strong a word, but 'seriously encourage' ) their offspring into grammar school instead of encouraging their natural talent and intelligence in more diverse ways. <br />I didn't go to university (by choice, not that I couldn't) and eventually ade my way in the world by sheer hard work and capitalising on the talents I did have, and became quite a managerial success (if you count success by upwards direction/positions). But success takes many forms, and seeing going to grammar school as the be-all and end-all of a child's route to it is a very narrow view some parents have, judging by that programme.<br />Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-62506137442922618942018-05-10T08:52:00.664-07:002018-05-10T08:52:00.664-07:00Very entertaining post,Elaine, wonderfully written...Very entertaining post,Elaine, wonderfully written Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-71067940325304344112018-04-03T04:56:43.913-07:002018-04-03T04:56:43.913-07:00mojo loss is a common occurrence - mine comes back...mojo loss is a common occurrence - mine comes back when the sun shines !Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-58538776597592474832018-04-03T04:55:32.895-07:002018-04-03T04:55:32.895-07:00:-):-)Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-48928566066802959112018-04-03T04:54:10.983-07:002018-04-03T04:54:10.983-07:00Vitamin B complex is sometimes the answer, helps c...Vitamin B complex is sometimes the answer, helps combat lethargy and exhaustion, helps optimum energy levels. Can buy over the counter however best to consult your GP first for correct dosage to suit you as does have side effects / can cause probems if overused or not used correctly - might not be safe if you have medical conditions.<br /> Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-73173757175415940482018-04-01T07:44:22.008-07:002018-04-01T07:44:22.008-07:00Loss of mojo is a serious affliction. I will be st...Loss of mojo is a serious affliction. I will be starting a crowd-funding page on FB to raise cash for a mojo retrieval programme..Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00415283252252655705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-63509937542071008492018-03-26T03:00:15.869-07:002018-03-26T03:00:15.869-07:00Well yes, thats the dilema, these people are cold ...Well yes, thats the dilema, these people are cold dirty and lying about on the streets beging bcos they are addicted to alchoholand or other drugs, the 'lowest of the low' literally. Is it right that they are addicted - no- is it right they are rolling about on the floor in their own filth - no - what is our society doing to help these people- they are part of our society after all. So ok it may be self induced poverty but its because they are weak people- should we just walk on by, if we give them money aren't we compounding their issues?is it right that we ignore them ? I don't know.EMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14481084739082043028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-39990085942457056182018-03-26T01:31:15.536-07:002018-03-26T01:31:15.536-07:00I remember, in the mid-sixties, being accosted in ...I remember, in the mid-sixties, being accosted in a central London street, by a beggar, who was, almost predictably, Glaswegian as am I. "Gonnae gie us five bob for a cuppa tea pal?" I know London is expensive, but even in the '60s, five bob was a lot for a tea! I told him that I wouldn't give him money but I'd buy him a meal. I took him into a nearby 'Wimpey' bar and sat him down in a table in the rear, went up to the counter and gave five shillings to the server asking her to give the guy what he wanted to eat and a hot drink. As I was walking out the door, I turned to wave him farewell. He was already at the counter haranguing the waitress to get the money back. Apparently his need for 'tea' had been superseded by a more pressing requirement.........Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00415283252252655705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-76283847884365092672018-03-25T16:05:09.026-07:002018-03-25T16:05:09.026-07:00Totally agree - it is a conundrum. I walked past ...Totally agree - it is a conundrum. I walked past a rough sleeper chap I hadn't seen before, sitting in a closed shop doorway in Fort William and not exactly asking but obviously (hat on the pavement) desiring money. I passed him by with the thoughts of 'well, he'll just spend it on cider or drugs' but my compassion twinged me and I thought 'well, I have do some change' turned, went back and dropped it in his hat saying 'get yourself a coffee' and he thanked me. But I still left him with the same thoughts you mentioned :what's the point, should I have done it,etc.<br /><br />Still don't know the answer, though - is it a good thing to do or not? I we just exacerbating the problem, or are we helping another human being who shouldn't have to be in that position?<br />Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-50902087938104883062018-03-07T14:53:19.777-08:002018-03-07T14:53:19.777-08:00What a good read Elaine, I've got to say I did...What a good read Elaine, I've got to say I did take it seriously but you did make me giggle too. SAD can be draining though so for a pick me up I agree with Dave, sunshine (when it comes out) a good night out & a few vodkas should at least help for now. Hopefully spring will gain momentum & bring some warmth & sun. :-) please.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17394918365969778175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-35259783517801396722018-03-05T01:58:02.564-08:002018-03-05T01:58:02.564-08:00Thanks for the comments guys- A really good read o...Thanks for the comments guys- A really good read or a good film works wonders usually. A good night out Dave ? you're on !EMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14481084739082043028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-35527705326367304242018-03-05T01:38:57.436-08:002018-03-05T01:38:57.436-08:00All you need is a good night out and some sunshine...All you need is a good night out and some sunshine. SAD (Seasonally Adjusted Disorder) is probably caused by vitamin D deficiency due to lack of sunshine in the Winter months especially in Northern climes.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00415283252252655705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-6126258243834832602018-03-05T01:25:15.031-08:002018-03-05T01:25:15.031-08:00Does writing you blog help? Sounds like it might,...Does writing you blog help? Sounds like it might, 'venting' is a good helpful thing. I've always written things down (rather then talking about it to others) in a sort of journal/diary - private to only me- but have also found it helps as well.<br />Your blog is an excellent outlet too, and is very creatively written, and I'm sure must help others who read it tooRowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-17116552804101433062018-03-05T01:20:37.125-08:002018-03-05T01:20:37.125-08:00I sympathise - and empathise! I have suffered fro...I sympathise - and empathise! I have suffered from SAD most of my life, it's why we always went on long hols to the sun in Jan or Feb each year, to help me through it. It's worse nowadays because we don't do that anymore, and winters are so dark where we live. Nowadays it's a 'grin and bear it' for some months but you're right about trying to mitigate it by doing things . . . you're community garden is a good option tho not much to do in the dead of winter? We help out the local community on projects too - yesterday painted a load of picnic benches - and the one thing that helps me above all other things is yoga/meditation, going every week and a 3 hour class on Sat once a month is a godsend!<br />We also make the effort to get out in the countryside at least once a week for a drive round, even if it's too cold to walk anywhere. Quite often, though, I don't want to go to any of my usual things in the evening like music sessions, choir etc and just curl up indoors on my own either with my knitting or a good book (or even for a good depressing cry to myself!) but I've done that for many years now and have learned to just go with the flow of what I want to do when, to help the SAD. Saw a doctor about it once but didn't do any good(it wasn't known about many years ago) and was just offered anti-depressants which I DIDN'T take.<br />What works for me now is the above things, and just realising that it is what it is, and I can either do something to help myself, or just suffer with it - both of which I do!Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-62081194753280470442018-02-15T15:34:43.987-08:002018-02-15T15:34:43.987-08:00Yes,definitely wierd, but lovely with it!Yes,definitely wierd, but lovely with it!Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-18733738269372212852018-02-09T23:20:02.634-08:002018-02-09T23:20:02.634-08:00Yers... A bunch of twits !
Yers... A bunch of twits !<br />EMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14481084739082043028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-68324033250060091492018-02-09T08:21:20.209-08:002018-02-09T08:21:20.209-08:00As parents, we can only do our best for our childr...As parents, we can only do our best for our children from the place we are at and the circumstances we are in. I'd bet every parent under the sun wishes they had done some things differently bringing up their children and, in hindsight, regret things they said/actions they took at some time or other. We can only do what we feel is best for them at the time, and in that moment.<br />The limited interaction I have had with psychologists has not been good or helpful, and left me frustrated and vowing never to bother with such people again. They learn out of text books and college courses, and quote their 'vast experience with clients' as a basis for their expertise and know-it-all attitude and patronising assessment of situations without really understanding (or even trying to) the unique individual circumstances of the person they are talking with. I have no faith in any of them.Rowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669287556451753689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-52905128916493172412018-02-02T01:28:40.212-08:002018-02-02T01:28:40.212-08:00Thanks , no had to cancel my appointment to take t...Thanks , no had to cancel my appointment to take the husband to the docs today ! x<br />EMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14481084739082043028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-56006629552056517192018-02-01T09:23:55.821-08:002018-02-01T09:23:55.821-08:00Fantastic my dear, looking forward to more reads. ...Fantastic my dear, looking forward to more reads. Have you got your tooth fixed yet? ������Moonbeamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1163650136336562473.post-29130184028156648162018-01-31T04:51:04.414-08:002018-01-31T04:51:04.414-08:00Yes thanks for the comments. I put it out there, e...Yes thanks for the comments. I put it out there, even if it did make us look a little foolish because I want people to comment-- The way the leathery old tart spoke to us was inhumane at best but seriously threatening at worst and it should not be allowed to contnue-- She said we would never be able to learn to speak Spanish (?) even tho husband is fluent in german, french Glasweigan and English, and I can do French and a few phrases in many languages. She said he would never get health insurance if we wanted to stay in Spain for morethan a few months because of his health track record - where he is much healthier than me- She was more than insulting on numerous accassions- I nearly got up and walked off at one point, but stayed as I felt obligated. She was a right chav ! v.v. annoying disgusting behaviour.<br />EMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14481084739082043028noreply@blogger.com